You may have the best qualifications and the most comprehensive work experience on your CV, but if you are unable to get along with your colleagues or fellow students, you may not be able to go far! How your coworkers see you heavily depends on your interpersonal communication skills, and can have a long-term impact on your career possibilities as well as your routine life. Read on to find out some effective tips to strengthen your social skills and make better connections with your team mates.

Be a sensible and effective speaker

To have your opinions valued, it is important that you weigh your words and thoughts before voicing them out. Intelligence and maturity are the secret ingredients to achieving exceptional communication skills. Avoid revealing the first thought that crosses your mind, without contemplating, to avoid misunderstandings and misperceptions with your peers.

An effective verbal communication is all about clarity. Slow down and speak more considerately, avoid impulsive responses to questions, and pause for a while to digest the conversation before offering your opinions. Stay calm and focused, speak politely and just follow basic professional ethics, and all should be well!

Your thoughtfulness and sensibility can take you a long way in being taken seriously, and so can a splash of vigilant humor. You may have already noticed that the funny guy in your office, or classroom, is also quite popular. As long as you keep off inappropriate humorous remarks, or offensive jokes, you will be able to ease out communication barriers with a timid peer or a grumpy manager!

Be a good speaker, but a better listener

It may be a lost virtue, but active listening is vital for great interpersonal skills. In addition to being an audience to your words, your coworkers would want to be heard and understood too. Make sure you recognize others’ perspective and demonstrate a basic understanding of their viewpoints. Try repeating what the speaker has said to express your attention and feel more connected.

Effective verbal communication has to be two-sided. Be prepared to listen to your colleagues with an open mind and concentration, and avoid emerging as distracted, judgmental, and disrespectful towards their point of views. To be approachable and favored, treat other speakers with the same dignity and importance as you would like for your own words.

Positive attitude, happy face, and considerate nature

Non-verbal communication provides the foundation for efficient verbal communication. Maintain a confident body language, be courteous and supportive, and most importantly, don’t be a whiner! Your constant smile can become your identity at your workspace, and your considerate nature can make you the most favorite employee among your colleagues. Get into a habit of writing positive appreciation notes to your coworkers; celebrate even the pettiest of achievements; remember their birthdays and important evens; always wear a cheerful outlook, and never hold back praises and thank-you. By representing a caring and courteous demeanor, you will have the same feelings reciprocated towards you.

Stay aware of your surroundings and focus on self-management

How effective your interpersonal skills are, basically depends on how well you manage your anger, frustration, mood swings and other emotions. Focus on self-management and maintain a calm and composed outlook at work and school. Be compassionate to a struggling coworker, avoid laughing in tense situations, and most importantly, keep a tap on your own emotions to be empathetic to others.

Be assertive yet open to constructive feedback

While it is important to always be polite and respectful, it is also essential that you demonstrate a certain level of assertiveness to get your point across and well-taken in a competitive environment. However, it is vital that you don’t come off as being rude or offensive. It is completely normal to defend your ideas with confidence, but remember to keep aggression at bay. Keep you volume and tone under control, choose appropriate words, and be tactful enough to emerge out of the situation respectably.

At times, your opinions may meet criticism and opposition, but there’s a reason why they are called opinions and not facts! Avoid taking criticism and negative feedback personally and remain flexible around your set course of action. There may be other better ideas than yours, accept them with an open mind to maintain a professional and persevering character.

Leadership Game | Back To Back Drawing Student Leadership Game

 © Russ Peak | Leadership Has Never Been This Fun! | Leadership-Ideas.com

Description

In this student leadership game, your students will learn the importance of clear communication as they pair up back-to-back and attempt to re-create a drawing with only limited verbal instructions.

Purpose

This activity teaches effective communications skills. It emphasizes the importance of giving clear instructions when presenting your ideas.  Whether giving instructions to a teammate, presenting your student council election speech, or advertising the next school dance… the presence of clear and specific directions will ensure the success of your student leadership efforts.

Group Size

Any

Materials Required

A Pad of paper and pencil for each pair of players

Shape drawings (Download & Print this PDF with Shapes)

Optional – Use a dry erase board for writing participant’s key point answers and “a-ha!” moments during discussion.

Time Required

15-30 minutes

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INSTRUCTIONS

Get Ready & Explanation

1. Divide your group into pairs.
   
2. Instruct each pair to sit on the floor back to back.
   
3. Give one person in each pair a pencil and pad of paper.
4. Explain that the player holding the picture will give verbal instructions to their partner on how to draw the shape – without actually telling the partner what the shape is.
5. Show your group the drawing of the square and explain:

“You may not simply say, ‘Draw a square!’  Or even ‘Draw the shape of SpongeBob’s body.’”

“Instead, you will give step-by-step directions.”

“For example:  If this were describing the SQUARE, I’d say…”

“Draw a line horizontally across the page.”

“At the end of the line you just drew, draw a line going down the page… Etc.”

Note: Don’t complete the whole drawing or get too specific in your drawing example.  Let them figure that out themselves.   Discard the square.

Play The Game

1. Pass out a shape to the paired player who does not have the pencil and pad of paper.  Make sure to only let the direction giving player see the shape.
   
2. “Go! Artists… no looking!”
   
3. When the drawing is complete.  Ask each pair to compare their original shape with the actual drawing.
4. Play this game 3 or 4 times allowing the pairs to see the outcome of their drawings.  Pass out a different shape each game and allow pairs to switch who is the communicator and who is the drawer.

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DISCUSSION IDEAS

1. During the first round, how well did the direction giver describe the shape? How well did the second person interpret the instructions?
2. Were there problems with both the sending and receiving parts of the communication process?
3. What did you do to improve the communication process?  What was the result?
4. Have you experienced a situation where bad communication was an issue?  What happened?  How could have more direct communication have helped?
5. What can we learn from this in our attempts to reach out to our campus and community as leaders?
6. Is there anything we are currently doing as student leadership that could be improved with better communication efforts?

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COMMENTS

1. Use basic shapes for the first couple of rounds.  Switch in the more difficult shapes as your student leaders catch on.
2. Remember, like many team-building and student leadership games, this in not just a quick game in route to an object lesson.  This game actually is great practice in developing these invaluable student leadership skills. Incorporate this and other leadership skill building games into your leadership or student council class on a weekly basis.
3. Ideas stick better when accompanied by a personal example. Your student leaders will gain greater retention of your discussion points when they accompany their basic answers with an example or descriptive story, hypothetical or real, that involves how they have or will use their leadership skills in a personal away.  Encourage this sort of response and ask follow up questions.
4. New at leading group games?  Check out this article that explains the simple secrets that will leave you leading games like a pro!  Playing With A Purpose: Simple Secrets To Student Leadership Games That Teach And Inspire

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Do you have a great follow up discussion question or idea that would benefit this game?  A twist on the normal play?  Or perhaps a different improvisation game that leadership teachers and trainers could use to demonstrate and develop leadership skills with their students? Let us know! I want to hear from you!